Shaunti Fledhahn

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 8/25/2007 8:00 AM

On Saturday morning, I flew out again for the Phoenix area. I had been at Cornerstone Christian Church almost exactly a year ago to do a Women’s Event. They had wanted to have me in to do a pastoral interview as part of a sex series, like so many churches that I have spoken at in the last three years.

CORNERSTONE COMMUNITY CHURCH ATTENDANCE GOES FROM 2500 TO 6000 IN ONE YEAR!

They were doing a series of five or six weeks on sexual issues and had want ... Read More »

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 8/23/2007 8:00 AM

I flew out Thursday morning to do a women’s night out event at a church in McAllen, Texas last night and it was a really sweet group of people. They had a full dinner and it was one of those great events that I love so much were the men of the church serve the dinner for the women of the church and give their wives a fun, relaxing time. The other thing that I always find really amusing about those scenarios is that, while I’m standing up on stage talking to the girls about what’s going on in the lives of their men, you can see the heads of the men peeping over the windows and the doors to the kitchen or peering around the sides of the room or standing in the back of the room just happening to take a long time to clear dishes just because they want to hear.

Last night, I was standing on stage sharing some of these issues and I noticed that there seem to be more men than normal filtering into the room when ... Read More »

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 8/18/2007 8:00 AM

Saturday morning I did a women’s event for a church at Chicago, Bethel Community Church. That was interesting because we had a great question and answer time. One question really struck a chord with me. A woman stood up and said she’d be starting work with her husband in his business this fall, and she was very cautious and seemed to have a strong personality and asked, “what can I do, what’s the one piece of advice you can give me for helping to ensure that I don’t mess this up, how I approach my husband, now that he is not just my husband but my co-worker and boss? I told her that I thought she was absolutely astute to ask that question, and I shared with her from my own experience of working with my husband that the one thing that you need to do most of all is to think about everything that you say before you say it while you are in the process of learning how to work together.
Read More »

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 8/16/2007 8:00 AM

This was a three-day trip that had some terrific highs and some terrific lows. On the highs, my husband and I traveled on Thursday to Colorado Springs and I started some meetings and interviews for the next book that I’m going to write. It is a corporate version of ‘For Women Only’, and I think it will be really helpful to a lot of women who by not understanding how men think, sometimes sabotage their careers without realizing it because of how they interact and treat the men that they work with.

So, I’m starting the research on this and I’m really excited about this one. The next day, Friday morning, Jeff and I had an absolutely fantastic time. The reason we were out there was because we were invited sometime ago to speak at Focus on the Family’s monthly chapel service. August was marriage month for Focus on the Family. They had invited Jeff and I to come speak to all 1200 e ... Read More »

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 8/10/2007 8:00 AM

This weekend, I did a marriage conference for 415 people on a Friday night and a Saturday morning; and this was a really interesting group, because it was a marriage conference that wasn’t just for married couples. They actually encouraged a lot of singles to come to this and to learn a lot of the stuff, these truths about men and women before they get married, which I thought was a very productive way of handling this. Something funny happened near the end of one of the sessions when I tell the men that the way women are wired in a sexual way that women have such physiological differences, physical differences, that they need anticipation time. They need to know what their husband has on the menu for the evening before they get to the bedroom. This is one of the principles, one of the main differences between men and women; and any male, I was telling them that men that can learn this can understand how to give their wife anticipation time b ... Read More »

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 7/30/2007 8:00 AM

My column counterpart and friend of four years, Diane Glass, died today. This has been a very difficult month, as Diane only learned that she had cancer 5 weeks ago, and because the family wanted to respect her privacy, we couldn’t really share with others all that was going on. Even though those of us who cared about her were hurting with her, and her family. Yesterday, however, it became public knowledge, as her ‘farewell column’ ran in the AJC and dozens of other papers. (You can see that here: http://www.ajc.com/blogs/content/shared-blogs/ajc/woman/entries/2007/07/29/

whats_important.html) A ... Read More »

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 7/9/2007 8:00 AM

The giant ICRS convention every year is one of the highlights of my year. It is when all the people in the Christian publishing world get together in one place and have a giant convention where all the publishers and other exhibiters show their new product line for the fall season. All the buyers come and walk around and look at what is coming out in the next few months to determine what is going to be at the top of their list or what they are going to promote to the consumer.

The ICRS show is also a time to see old friends and I love it for both of those reasons because it is also ... Read More »

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 7/6/2007 8:00 AM

Jeff and I dropped the kids off with their grandparents, my parents, and flew to Fresno, California in the middle of a heat wave. Fresno is in the desert in northern California and when we got off the plane, it was 111 degrees Fahrenheit! We went to this absolutely fabulous church called ‘The Well’ to do a relationship conference together.

The thing that was so cool about this Church is that the average age in this Church of over a thousand people is 25, which is so exciting to us because even though we are a few years older than that - Aha - actually more than a few years older than that, we hear all the time from people who hear the findings about how men are wired or about how the women are wired and they say “How we wish we had been able to hear this before we got married” or “I wish I’d learned this when I was dating.”

We have felt the same wa ... Read More »

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 6/12/2007 8:00 AM

This was one of the most fun weeks I have had as a public speaker. We had received an invitation for to speak to an annual event. Gulf Lake Ladies Days brings in around 3,000 women over the course of five days and gives them a ‘ladies day out’ at a beautiful lake in Michigan. My husband is from Michigan, so we thought that we could actually turn this into a chance for us as a family to see my husband’s family as well as speak to a fairly large group of women over the course of five days. This turned out to be a wonderful family and working vacation.

Gulf Lake is a community with a lot of vacation cottages. Residents live there part of the year, and it has a beautiful beach with boats and water activities. My kids loved getting on the sandy beach and building castles and canals and I had a lot of fun speaking to the women. One of the most special things for me was to be able to get some time to hang out wi ... Read More »

By Shaunti Feldhahn on 5/31/2007 8:00 AM

In celebration of the completion of For Parents Only our staff went to tea at our favorite tea house, Vintage Tea Room, where they serve the most delicious scones, clotted cream, and teas of every flavor possible.

  Read More »