breakthesilence
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| 01/26/2011 12:08 PM |
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Ok i have a dilemma.
I like this guy in my youth group. He is a year older than I am. He is almost everything I want in a potential boyfriend other than a few personal limits I have. I don't know if God would want us to be a relationship. I don't want to let myself be led on or to lead him on if that is not God's plan. What should I do? |
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Beckah
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| 01/26/2011 1:57 PM |
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Welocme! 
ok So does this guy like you and does he know you like him?? The best answer for that would be to start praying about it. if its in Gods will and timing you will know. thats a very hard thing to deal with, i for one have been praying about this one guy that if its Gods plan he will lead us together, But anyways, just really think and pray about it. Wait and listen.
I hope this helps! |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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James
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| 01/27/2011 5:27 AM |
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how old are you if you don't mind me asking?
Prayer is a good start you can ask people you trust as well, an extra opinion can be helpful |
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breakthesilence
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| 01/27/2011 11:06 AM |
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| I am 16 and he is 17. |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 01/27/2011 12:28 PM |
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Trust your intuition. You say he's everything you're looking for. Go for it! If he's not up to par, you'll find out really quick.
All of this is hinged on if the feelings are mutual, mind you. Definitely try and find that out before you go all in! If they are, wonderful! If not, dodged a bullet there! If he really likes you, he won't be able to hide it.
Sorry, kind of a scatterbrained thought process! Hope it helped somewhat! |
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One step at time,
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James
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| 01/28/2011 7:48 AM |
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| If you have real feelings for him you won't be leading him on If you're both prepared to give it a shot it should work out fine even if you don't end up getting married haha |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 01/30/2011 8:18 PM |
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| If he's everything you want, except for a few personal limits, then he really ISN'T everything you want. Trust God and wait for even better... It's harder than it sounds. |
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Beckah
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| 01/31/2011 12:28 AM |
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If he's everything you want, except for a few personal limits, then he really ISN'T everything you want.
i would have to agree with you on that Darcie. |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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James
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| 01/31/2011 8:59 PM |
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I'd agree however.. I think some people have their expectations a little too high. They are waiting for the perfect mate in life, in any relationship you need to accept the other person's faults and differences. You can't ignore them or it will get worse but you can accept them I think a lot of marriages develop problems over people trying to make the other person better and not accepting them for who they are. No one in this world is perfect, some people really do fit amazingly well together and you can see God working in their relationship but no relationship is without its problems
Some people also have their standards too low though.. |
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love*
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| 01/31/2011 11:17 PM |
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| ya..they can b to low but all because there r a few things that u dont like doesnt mean he/she r the wrong one i wuld say if u think so your expectations r def to high! find me a perfect person! |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 02/01/2011 12:19 AM |
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in any relationship you need to accept the other person's faults and differences.
I think a lot of marriages develop problems over people trying to make the other person better and not accepting them for who they are. No one in this world is perfect, some people really do fit amazingly well together and you can see God working in their relationship but no relationship is without its problems
I totally agree with you, James. What I was saying is that you shouldn't lower your standards because you like someone, not that you should try to find a saint! If someone pushes your boundaries, you two shouldn't be going out together. But let's say you don't want to kiss until you're ready to get married, but he's okay with kissing during a teen relationship. As long as he's not trying to force that on you, he's probably okay. |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 02/01/2011 12:20 AM |
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IMHO, I don't think we teens should be dating, but it's not my place to decide that for you  |
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Beckah
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| 02/01/2011 10:52 AM |
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IMHO, I don't think we teens should be dating, but it's not my place to decide that for you
I second that. no offence yall! |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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James
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| 02/01/2011 6:34 PM |
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| I would agree that 'we teens' shouldn't be 'dating' but I wouldn't rule out all romance. I think as you get to your late teens you should be open to the possibility of finding someone but you shouldn't look to hard to try and find a partner. Some people do have the yearny thing going on and others are very single haha God's timing and plan is different for each and every one of us |
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JoJo
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| 02/03/2011 1:40 AM |
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Short answer, pray.
pray and fast about it and seriously seek the Lord on the issue.
and in the mean time, just be friends... dont do anything friends wouldn't do 
Hope that helped. (btw if you fast, learn how fasting works etc, cuz just not eating doesn't work lol.) |
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Lookin' back from where you have been
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breakthesilence
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| 02/03/2011 12:24 PM |
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| Thank you guys all for the wonderful advice |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 02/04/2011 12:42 PM |
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| What did you decide? Is there anything else we can do to help? |
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breakthesilence
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| 02/05/2011 11:51 AM |
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| I'm going to give him space for a while, and work things out with God and just be this guys friend. If God wants it to be more, he will show us! |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 02/07/2011 12:36 PM |
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| Good for you! I am so glad! |
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