bubbagump
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| 03/19/2011 1:34 AM |
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So there is this foreign exchange student at my school, and we got along great from the first time i talked to her, which was about a month ago. She is an amazing person and i think i am falling for her. I want to ask here out but i know that she is going to have to go back home after the school year is over. What do i DO????? I REALLY like this girl. Please help.
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Grant I.
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| 03/19/2011 11:08 AM |
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With God all things are possible. Why do you like her? How old are you? Would you be able to fly to her country to visit/live there? Would she be able to come visit you? Keep in mind that if you do start a relationship, and it ends when she goes back, you both will be hurt more than if you were just good friends from now 'til then. Whatever you do, ask her for her email address, etc., so you can stay in contact if you guys are still good friends when she goes back. One thing I've learned with Clare and I, is that a long distance relationship over 2 time zones really stinks in that department. I'm always dead beat from working all day, she wants to talk for an hour or two, I'm finally cleaned up and ready to crash at midnight or 1:00AM, and she's 2 hours earlier feelin' spunky and talkative, and I fell asleep on her who knows how many times. That's not good for either of us let me tell ya.
Purely out of curiosity...Where do you live, and where is she from? |
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bubbagump
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| 03/19/2011 12:13 PM |
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I live in California, and she lives in Austria. Just to be clear its Austria, not Australia. I always get those two mixed up. 
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JoJo
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| 03/19/2011 9:33 PM |
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haha yeah Austria is near germany... we had an exchange student from there...
i'd say probably stay friends... for now, and see where it goes... cuz if you date her now, and it does end when she goes back, that is gonna suck, but if you're friends even after she leaves and you stay in contact, you could consider if you could handle a LDR 
in other words... do you know her views on dating etc and if her parents would be happy with you talking to her even after she goes back home etc?? cuz that will play a BIG part |
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bubbagump
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| 03/19/2011 10:01 PM |
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| i dont know about her parents' views on her dating while she is here, but her friend, who is also from Austria, is over here with her and has a boyfriend here. How do I talk to her about her views on dating without making it obvious that i want to ask her on a date? |
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Q
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| 03/20/2011 8:00 PM |
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| Point out a good looking guy, make a joke about how she should date him, if she says she can't date while in the US or looks like she wants to say something but is too embarrassed to say it, then don't ask her out. |
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bubbagump
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| 03/20/2011 8:45 PM |
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That might work... or it could horribly backfire and she would like the guy and date him until she had to go home... Gulp... 
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nateynate
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| 03/21/2011 12:24 PM |
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| honestly, youve got nothing to lose. Either she says yes and you two have a nice time and then you cross the bridge of her leaving when it come. Or you do nothing and she goes back home and you always are wondering wat if? Or you ask and she says no and then you at least know wat happens. So i say just ask her. You dont want to have regrets of if i did or if i didnt. |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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bubbagump
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| 03/21/2011 4:36 PM |
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Ok. I will ask her tomorrow. How does a little open mic concert at a coffee shop sound as a first date idea?
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/21/2011 6:37 PM |
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| I'm really not for the high school dating scene at abll, but your idea does sound nice. Just make sure you have a lot of time to talk either before the concert, after it, or both. Lots of girls have this weird thing that when you sit next to the guy you like, it elevates the level of connection (only in the mind) even if your not speaking to each other, which can make you feel really close to the guy emotionally before actually knowing all that much about him. That's dangerous. |
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Beckah
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| 03/21/2011 6:38 PM |
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| sounds nice. |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/22/2011 1:52 PM |
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Point out a good looking guy, make a joke about how she should date him, if she says she can't date while in the US or looks like she wants to say something but is too embarrassed to say it, then don't ask her out.
Q... I hope that was sarcastic... :/ |
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nateynate
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| 03/22/2011 4:19 PM |
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| sounds like a good idea my man. Good luck and let us know how it goes |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/22/2011 4:21 PM |
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Why Nathan, was that directed to Q or Bubba?  JKJKJK
No, seriously, Q, did you really mean that?
Bubba: your user name is somewhat similar to bubble gum. That just made me laugh! |
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Q
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| 03/22/2011 9:03 PM |
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@ Darcie No, but jokes are always a good way to get information without direct confrontation.
I have a femail friend (in NZ we call them chick-mates), who is a exchange student from Japan she has a Kiwi boyfriend (against the rules, but no-one minds) and they are having trouble right now, I'm not sure why, but I expect they both thought differently about the permanence of the relationship, so be upfront with her about how long you expect the relationship to last. |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/23/2011 5:45 PM |
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| ha. okay, well it's funny now, but if I were the girl you were saying that to, it suddenly wouldn't be so funny anymore. Just a word of caution. |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/23/2011 5:45 PM |
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| or if you said it to Nicole, or Beckah, etc... I wasn't just talking about me. Any girl you went and said that to wouldn't like it. |
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Beckah
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| 03/24/2011 11:13 PM |
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@Q.. ya know that is kind of a funny way, but this guy i know has pointed out hot guys to me and said i should date. i just go along with it and make jokes to him back. lol like i will say stuff like, "dude she is so for you. you know you want her." hah BUT this guy and i ARE friends, so we know when its a joke and what not.
@Darcie, i dont really mind it. i just do back to them. |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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Beckah
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| 03/24/2011 11:15 PM |
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| @Darcie.. have you ever seen the movie "Forest Gump"??? thats where the bubba gump name came from.. well thats the only place i know of, that it would be from. lol |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/25/2011 1:16 AM |
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| Umm no I haven't |
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