Drake
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| 06/30/2011 4:03 PM |
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| I was curios as to what girls specific views are on making out , sex and what it means for you. I've read the book and it guves a bit if an idea but id like to hear it from the girls here at the forums. I don't want people getting the wrong idea as this is simply me wanting to know your opinions. Is also rather if jyst girls answered. No offence guys. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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God's Girl
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| 06/30/2011 10:03 PM |
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| What exactly do you want to know? I'd answer, but I'm not quite sure what you are asking. |
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Drake
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| 07/01/2011 3:16 AM |
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| Is just like your views and opinions on them and what you think the affects are or if its fine to make out. I just want your opinions in general. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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JoJo
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| 07/01/2011 7:37 AM |
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ok, look up a topic called "the male body" david started it, and it's got ALOT on the questions you asked... and a few debates (cuz david was the king of debates) about it all... it will give you some insight 
after you read that, let me know if you have more questions, and I'll try to answer |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Drake
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| 07/01/2011 12:22 PM |
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I read it but it didnt answer my question. I was asking what girls thpugjt about making out and sex. The reference you gave me talked about attracting and keeping girls. Not what they thougjt about sex and making out. Like for me kissing passionately is ok but sex I draw the line. And I know my reasons for my views but I dont really know all of yoyr views and why you have them. I have a vague idea pn boundaries for women but not really their teasons. Some also have different views on drawing the line. Like even kissing for example. So id just like to know what girls here thought.
You can say anything you want and i won't be offended. Just give your honest answers. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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God's Girl
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| 07/01/2011 5:51 PM |
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| I don't know if I'm the best person to answer this, but here goes. For me, I don't know if I even want to have my first kiss before my wedding day. Most of my friends would probably draw the line at sex, but I am not at all like them in that aspect. The way I see it is the more you save for your future husband/wife, the more special it is then. |
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Drake
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| 07/01/2011 5:57 PM |
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| I agree mostly but i think kissing is ok as long as thete is no feeling or anything. Anyone else think similar to me or her or have a different opinion? |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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Daughter_of_the_King
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| 07/02/2011 1:10 AM |
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| I think kissing is okay. But I haven't personaly made a decision on if I think making out is okay or not. And sex I deffintetly would say no before marriage. That probably didn't help much I'm sry but that's just something I have to think ab more I guess |
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JoJo
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| 07/02/2011 2:21 AM |
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oh ok, haha, maybe there was another topic of a similar title that I was thinking of, idk, lol.
ok well as to the kissing thing... what guy's need to know is that EVERYTHING has a meaning or feeling behind it, to a girl... so even kissing has major consequences, weither good or bad...
Me, I had similar views to you, until I actually learnt about relationships and how the whole bonding process goes... and now, I don't wanna kiss someone til I'm at least engaged... not saying kissing is wrong... but it's special...
as to making out, it's better to stay as far away from the line as possible... and making out is basically one step away from sex... because, if you're in a hard out make out session, it get's hot and heavy, and your mind automatically switches into THAT mode... and it's hard to stop once you've put the peddal to the metal... if you get the drift.. (ok car puns out of the way...)
as to more than that, i don't really have much to say, except sex should be reserved for marriage, and no matter how many people who sleep around tell you it's awesome... when you really speak to them and get to the centre of the issue, they regret it all... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Drake
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| 07/02/2011 2:57 AM |
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| Indeed. But like I said I dont mind some kissing but thats it. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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clare
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| 07/02/2011 9:10 PM |
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having been there done that take this VERY WISE advice  don't even start kissing. you don't know if the person you're dating will be the one you'll marry. then you'll have a bond you can hardly break with someone you're not even with. I'll be pretty open here (hope Grant doesn't mind) I have kissed 2 guys before Grant and wish I never had. Grant and I though it would be ok if we just kissed but it ALWAYS leads to one thing then another. He and I went through times where we wouldn't for awhile and then after a few months we would again thinking we would be 'stronger' but once you start you're wired to do the next thing. (and no everyone Grant and I have not had sex!! just to clear any doubts ) |
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Drake
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| 07/03/2011 1:12 AM |
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| Well I know where your comming from abd undeestabd what yiur saying. But cant the two people show maturity by kissing abd no more? I mean like what if they do kiss but are mature enough not to take it further. Cause to b3 honest I never heard of kissing having long term effects like sex. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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JoJo
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| 07/03/2011 4:05 AM |
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it's not really an issue of maturity... you can't really kiss for longer than a brief moment and not be very tempted to go furthur...I know alot of people who have givin me descriptions of how kissing exactly can lead to sex... and no... nothing graphic, but how they just kissed (and the wrong environment can contribute to this as well...) and it lead to other stuff.... and i dont really feel comfortable explaining haha, cuz i was kinda disturbed when I was told... I was kinda like "Um ok... you can stop talking now..."
it didn't lead them to sex, but they went far enough to be able to say that it was just not a great idea to have a long kissing session... and this was a young respected married couple (before they got married) who are now youth pastors...
and I think Clare has very valid points as she's talking from her own experiences...
idk, I guess when you get to our age (Over 20) you can see all the silly mistakes you made as a teen, and you understand the long term implications of certian actions... and to be honest, I didn't really know any of this stuff could lead on to other stuff til like 2 years ago or so... so yeah, i'm not surprised you never heard of that. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Drake
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| 07/03/2011 3:36 PM |
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| Well thanks for the advice. Ill try to keep kussing short and maje sure i dont get into those kinds of situations. I've heard from a man how his son stayed out of those situations so ill try those kinds if things. Although one in partixular was kinda funny. He pulled the couch into the garage and watch3d tv there so they would have the neibours watching so that they didnt get tempted. Maybe I shpuld try that one day lol. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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JoJo
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| 07/05/2011 5:46 AM |
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haha that is an idea! 
oh gosh, my bro always says "if you keep yourself as far from those situations as possible, it should be no problem." |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Drake
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| 07/05/2011 8:50 AM |
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| Yeah well it does make sense doesn't it. It's even better if its utterly funny. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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Nicole
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| 07/05/2011 10:27 PM |
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Well, as someone who's lived through her teen years and has learned quite a bit from them, here's my point of view-
Kissing I would say is probably wise to wait for until you're engaged to someone special. Passionate make out sessions just fire up the hormones and before you know it it can become more intense than you intended in the first place. Granted. I have never been on a date nor kissed anyone, but I guess you could say my advice/opinion is just from someone who's lived and learned this the easier way. I know kissing doesn't really have the same emotional strings attached as sex does, but a girl will more than likely remember what it felt like to be kissed, and with even some hormones involved, I don't think a girl can walk away from being passionately kissed without leaving a tiny bit of herself in that kiss.
Sex- the short answer I have is to wait until marriage. You probably already know the emotional intensity that comes with having sex, but most guys probably don't have the slightest idea just how tightly her emotional strings are tied to her man after having sex. She's already heavily invested herself. Again, granted, I've never had sex, but I am a girl and I am aware of how much emotion a girl can invest in something. I personally think it's better for a couple to wait and save themselves from going through emotional havoc.
All in all, I guess there you have it. I think Clare has it head on.
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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Drake
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| 07/06/2011 2:50 AM |
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| Like I said I pretty much agree. For me though its a quick kiss that i don't mind. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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JoJo
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| 07/06/2011 6:25 AM |
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just on a note Nicole brought up... about the emotional side of the girl...
guys... girls can get seriously emotionally and spiritually attatched to you... even if you haven't gone out on a date... I had one instance (wasn't as bad as the guy that i thought I was definitely gonna marry) but things seemed like they were going somewhere with a guy (like a relationship) so i allowed myself to invest myself into thinking of us as a couple, and girls can so easily jump from "we're a couple" to "OMG we could totally get married" and signing his name all over her books (i've personally never did the names on my books thing...)
point is, my head was full on into thinking we were together and official and everything (minus anything sexual, cuz I MAKE myself stay away from that side of things) and we werent... and I ended any chance of a relationship happening when I really found out what the guy was like... but I came away as heart broken as a girl would be if she had actually dated the guy for years...
just so guys know what goes on in a girl's mind... (BTW this was like 5 or 6 years ago...) |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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clare
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| 07/09/2011 2:07 PM |
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I'm not sure if I ever heard of quick kisses staying that way. once you create some sort of physical bond the relationship turns instantly from getting to know the person for who they are to finding yourself wanting to be with that person so you can kiss again. Let me prove it scientifically....
men and women produce Pheromones, one main spot in the underarms (not sweat!). The man's pheromones are very powerful to the girl and when she is sitting close to him, or hugging, these pheromones trigger chemicals in her brain and when they are releases they trigger her hormones and the brain is filled with this hormone and it dulls the clear thinking and strong resolve the person would normally have. and they find themselves wanting to do more than they ever wanted. That's why, when asked why they (made out, fooled around, had sex) did it the typical answer is "I don't know, it just happened". God created our bodies and hormones to be like this to create a deep bond with your husband/wife. Even the smallest kisses are a start to something you can hardly control, it's not just that physical sense of touching someone that is going to lead someone down. No one can help it that our bodies send off hormones that trigger the opposite sex's hormones. but it's a game you don't want to start.
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