A&L
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| 09/29/2011 3:41 PM |
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| So I for the last year have been writing letters to my future husband. I plan to give him them (I write in a notebook/journal) after we're just married.
I write sometimes every day, sometimes a week goes by...I write prayers, thoughts, things I want to tell him...what happened in my day, what's happening in my life...it changes from day to day.
I used to have one or two slight crushes but I always made myself get over them, because I didn't WANT to like anyone but now... It's really weird because as soon as I started writing to him, 'he' became a very real person to me. Now my guy friends and any other guys hold no romantic interest whatsoever for me. I still have the same guy friends, but they're like brothers even more than before. I think of 'him' as someone I don't know yet.
I occasionally wonder if I already know 'him'. But I now think of when I 'meet' him as the moment God tells me "that's him!" whether I've known him for my whole like, or a couple of years. It's quite funny, because if I know him now, I'm ignoring him romantically because I'm thinking of 'him'! (okay that was confusing, sorry!)
Anyway, I wanted to know if anyone else does this. And what they think of it. And what guys think of it. I know that by the time he reads them I'll have filled a lot of notebooks! (I'm only almost-16 now) I wonder if he'll find it interesting to read the rambling thoughts of his wife when she was 15...I know I would love to read it if he'd written them! So, what are your opinions? |
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Lin
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| 09/30/2011 1:20 PM |
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I think thats so cool! I'm 16 and I wanted to start somthing like that, but havn't gotten around to it..:/ I know I would love it if my future husband did somthing like that to show me.. I kinda write stuf down in my journal to show and tell him, but I really want to make time to do somthing like what your doing |
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Jacob Dawson
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| 10/03/2011 10:50 PM |
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| That a great idea. keep going your future husband should love it. I should know because I am a guy. |
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clare
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| 10/04/2011 2:23 PM |
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| I did that for a year or two and never told my boyfriend. I also had slipped a little money between all the pages I wrote. I gave it to my husband our wedding night and he was so amazed and very touched! I read it out loud to him and it was very special. I still write in it now and then. |
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faith<3
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| 10/06/2011 12:54 PM |
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| I havent wrote to my future guy yet but I journal alot..N ive kina been freaking out lately cuz It just seems like the thing he would wana do is read my journals(evrything I went thru,what my life was like wen i was young-im 16 now)..wich i for one think would be rly rly emberrassing..lol |
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Dokug
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| 10/07/2011 11:57 PM |
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No, I do not do this, but I think it is a great idea! I'm a guy, and I would very much enjoy reading something like that if I get married. I say keep it up!
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luke
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| 10/08/2011 12:47 AM |
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| I decided to start doing this after I saw this subject its a great way to vent, and would totally be a great way to show your future spouce what ur life was like! Great idea! |
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Luke 6:48, (THE MESSAGE) "If you work the words into your life, you are like a smart carpenter who dug deep and laid the foundation of his house on bedrock. When the river burst its banks and crashed against the house, nothing could shake it; it was built to last.
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Nicole
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| 10/11/2011 5:23 PM |
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I saw this subject, and decided I had to comment 
I think writing letters to your future spouse is a wonderful idea I started doing it sometime last year I think, but I haven't really been faithful to writing in continuum. I have approximately... 5 letters written to my future husband I believe.
Personally, I think it's a great way to kind of solidify the idea of staying faithful to your future spouse- it kind of gives it more tangibility, at least it does to me |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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Beckah
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| 10/12/2011 12:40 PM |
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I stsrted to write to my future husband, back in 2009.. ha i just found them a week ago! but the sad thing is i only have 3 letters! haha I think writting them in a notebook/journal is a good idea.. i just have them in sheets of papers in a ziploc bag. ha
i want to keep writting them, but its a little hard now tht i have a bf im courting. LIke i really believe he is the one, with out a doubt. I LOVE HIM! He said him self tht he wouldnt have come into this relationship if he wasnt thinking marrige.. Sorry for the little de-railment.. I want to start writting to him and saving them then give them to him on our wdding nite.. Or should i not???? |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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BonnieGurl
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| 10/12/2011 2:22 PM |
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| have you ever read the christy miller series? i recently re-read it (with my little sis). she writes to her future husband in sobooks. i thought that it was a pretty neat idea...thought about doing it my self... |
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CNB
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| 10/12/2011 11:33 PM |
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Alright, for one YES I love this idea...I decided a long time ago that I would start writing letters for my future hubby the day I turned 16 (idk really why..just thought it would be a special time to start. I write one letter a month (ish-sometimes more) and have been doing it for about 9 months now. I definitely would encourage you to keep writing them!!! I agree with Nicole....for me it REALLY helps me focus on GOD's plan for my life. In today's world, we can so easily get distracted by our flesh and keeping letters for the real thing keeps you not only excited about the future, but patient to wait. Your future husband is somewhere out there and like you said, you may or may not know him. I suggest you pray over your letters that you write. PRAY for your future husband (just as much as u daydream about him. Another thing that is big when writing letters is to be patient!!! Keep writing the letters but don't be anxious to make a fantasy world. Know your purpose and motives for writing them. Wait on God's timing....even if you're 35 and single, keep writing the letters!
Beckah-Hmm...well I can definitely see how it would be a little hard to write them b/c ur in a courting relationship Well, as a side note...if you're really serious about marriage...I highly (!!!) recommend you reading 'Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello To Courtship' by Joshua Harris. I am not married, or even ready to be courted, but I read this and it is extremely good for couples and individuals in a serious relationship!! For the letters, you really just have to look at your heart and motives. Yes, it would be an awesome gift and surprise for him. HOWEVER, you must genuinely search your heart to see why you would be writing them... Also, remember the person inside of you that wrote those three letters so long ago...what were HER motives? It was for her/your future husband and if you wrote them now it still would be...but it would be different, wouldn't it..? So...I guess personally, I would first start off by writing love letters/heart letters to GOD b/c HE needs to have most of our attention and 100% of our devotion and heart. When your in a relationship it can be hard to keep that big focus. So maybe for a little while you need to write letters to GOD...then maybe when you feel ready start writing them to your FUTURE HUSBAND. Hope that helps
Christy Miller...good series :-o |
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Beckah
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| 10/18/2011 2:38 PM |
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| i love the Christy miller series! i even have read christy & todd the college years.. very good. |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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Beckah
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| 10/18/2011 2:38 PM |
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| i love the Christy miller series! i even have read christy & todd the college years.. very good. |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 10/20/2011 3:43 AM |
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| I think it's an incredibly sweet gesture, just be careful you don't look over 'The One' because he's not 'Him'. |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
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clare
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| 10/20/2011 9:52 PM |
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Grant reads my journals too...that's a little awkward and embarrassing but hey relationships are about being honest! I wouldn't let him read them when we were dating. Well once but that was to help him understand what I was thinking about a certain circumstance.
Beckah...things can change, even when you both think you're "the ones" I would wait to give them till you are actually married to the man. |
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cassie14
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| 10/27/2011 5:35 PM |
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| i just saw this i havnt been on for awhile i think thats a good idea and im thinking of doing it myself but do most guys think its really strange or do they usually think its very sweet? i dont know some things are just embarrassing like when your 15/16 your pretty dramatic compared to when your old enough to be married im gona try it though |
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Beckah
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| 11/05/2011 5:08 PM |
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| im 18 and my BF is 25.. HE is a strong christian guy, totally on fire for the Lord. He is also very mature. I LOVE HIM!! |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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Beckah
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| 11/05/2011 5:12 PM |
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| also... i seriously believe he is "the one" truely and deepy believe it!!!!! He told me he wouldnt have come into this relationship if he dint see a marrage in the not so distant future. |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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T-Ray1z
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| 11/09/2011 9:40 PM |
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| A wise man once told me God would do it in the Spirit first before anything else....I believe this to be true...As you prepare your self for your future trust God doing it...don't forget to meet the wonderful people on the way to your future spouse. I learned you can't go wrong doing it God's way....and every decision that you make will truly affect your future so choose wisely....and if your a gal remember the word of God said it this way "A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and has favor in sight of the Lord" So keep your eyes open and live life he will come to you...and if your a guy ask God for Favor over you life to find a help mate...you all be blessed and keep writing |
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JoJo
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| 11/11/2011 3:12 AM |
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t-ray... thats exactly right. you can never go wrong trusting God. even when there are ups and downs  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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