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nateynate
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| 12/29/2009 6:24 PM |
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| Oh i forgot to mention this, when a girl flirts with a guy before he flirts with her, it is NOT taking the lead. |
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Adelynn
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| 12/29/2009 8:31 PM |
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| What you're describing seems more like the guy wimping out than the girl taking the lead. I mean I see your point, but, really... |
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nateynate
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| 12/31/2009 9:18 PM |
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| yea, but thats wat ends up happening, when the girl takes the lead, the guy tends to wimp up and fall back a little. Once the girl "establishes" herself as the lead, the guy probably isnt going to do anything and will seem like he is wimping out. You are right though, they are basically the same thing. |
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clare
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| 01/05/2010 3:44 PM |
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| Well what if the girl loves going and doing things. Ice skating, going on walks, going over to friends houses, playing games, and the guy loves sitting on the corner of the couch and not saying a word or just wants to stay home. So she has to drag him up and get moving. He's a leader in every other area...but the active socializing area! Should she be a little less demanding he gets his act together and goes with her? |
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nateynate
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| 01/05/2010 10:14 PM |
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| Alright Clare, wat your explaining is where the girl takes the lead in one aspect of the relationship and thats kinda good, you wouldnt want to be the follower the whole time i assume. No one does. If the girl is gonna take the lead in one or a couple of areas, it wouldnt bother me, but that then depends on the guy and how he feels. |
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TwoCorin517
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| 01/06/2010 3:01 PM |
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| Something I noticed is someone mentioned being indecisive... To be indecisive is to change you mind constantly, if you don't know what you want, then the guy doesn't know what you want. As for being in the crossfire like this, prayer is definitely needed. |
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Ophoe
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| 03/06/2010 6:51 PM |
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Well, I have to say that, while it tends to be more natural for the guy to take the lead, I think the problem is in distorting the relaxed, natural flow of the relationship (i.e., the girl trying to be overly controlling, or the guy being a monarch or something). But you also have to take into account different personalities, and if a guy who's naturally a little quieter ends up with a natural leader, the dynamics are going to be a little different. In my opinion, the girl will need to work on toning down a little and asking her guy for his two cents' worth, and the guy should try to pick up some of the weight so the relationship is more balanced. But I think it's just as unnatural for a girl to "force" her quieter guy to lead as it is for that same girl to boss him around. Respect him by letting him be himself, and showing you care (same for guys, of course, lol).
It seems to me the issue is respect (not as daughter-to-father but as complimentary soulmate to soulmate)--respect of the guy's dignity as a human person and as someone whose opinion is worth something. So a girl who is a little on the strong side will have to work on showing her love to her husband (or guy) by deliberately seeking his opinion...but, on the other hand, a guy that tends to be not only a leader but an overbearing one will need to make sure he doesn't trample on his girl either. Though perhaps they will have different roles naturally, they are (or will eventually) be in an intimate partnership that not only requires but demands utmost mutual respect.
Again, I think very often this respect tends to translate differently for each partner, and usually for the girl it involves conceding to her guy's decisions (out of respect, again, not obedience)--and for the guy it is probably going to involve taking more time to understand how she feels and taking that seriously (in a word, care, guys!).
Anyway, there's my silly little opinion. :-P lol |
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JoJo
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| 03/08/2010 8:10 PM |
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ok one question...
say I liked a guy... ok and I'd started becoming his friend, and so because (for me almost any guy I'd be interested wouldn't live in my town, as there are NO decent guys here) I'd only see him whenever I could go to his town or he to mine... but anyways, so say we see each other, about once a month... and we talk alot in txt or IM (not like insanely...) but to show that I'm kinda interested, I try to spend my bday with him, invite him to things (not really often... but you know) and idk, support him with whatever he's doing.
so to me that is pretty much hinting really obviously that I like him, especially if I spend Vday with him...
but idk would you guys see it like that... (hypothetically) |
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nateynate
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| 03/20/2010 10:27 PM |
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hypothetically...yes  |
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