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EmmaLeigh
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| 03/04/2010 12:54 PM |
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| So there's a really good friend of mine, I see her alot at school, church, etc, and it seems like I'm always saying to her "Can you please wear a higher shirt next week?" "you shouldn't be texting him so much." "Do you always talk to your dad like that?" "Don't hang around that guy so much, it looks like you're flirting with him, and i know you don't like him".
She always says "yeah, I know" but she never fixes anything. I'm kind of tired of trying to "keep her in line", but she doesn't always behave the way a Christian girl should.
So, help please, AM I my sister's keeper? |
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If a squash can make you smile
If you like waltz with potatos
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clare
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| 03/04/2010 6:30 PM |
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hard spot! I have a best friend and we are always keeping each other in line. but lately she hasn't been listening. She is 2 1/2 years younger than I, so i see her wanting to do something and I go 'No way! Remember what happened when I did that!" but I'm learning some times you have to give up and let them learn the hard way! And that is really tough to do when you know if only you're friend had listened. So far she listens to everything I tell her about guys, she doesn't want to repeat my life! And I know there was a point in time she gave up on trying to give me advice because I wouldn't listen. If I had listened I wouldn't have made the mistakes I did.
One thing Mom always told me, When someone is to old for a spanking or punishment, then that means they're old enough to know right and wrong. And whatever they choose it will be between them and God. God will deal with that person's sin. |
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AllieRay
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| 03/08/2010 9:53 AM |
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| I think its great that you are looking out for your friend, but I think there are things that people have to figure out for themselves. I know it may be very annoying but they only thing you will accomplish by telling her all the time to stop is losing your friend. You have already planted the seed, she knows she can come to you whenever. Now just back off a little. I know it will be hard to let her learn lessons on her own but I think it will be better in the end. |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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JoJo
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| 03/08/2010 7:32 PM |
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lol I sooooo have been there 
I had these 2 girls who were my best friends at the time... they are 5 years younger than me (there's no one my age in my town as they're all at college, and I'm assistant youth leader, so I do mingle with the younger youth alot.)
anyways, they both had these issues and how they behaved around guys, dating scumbag guys just because... and a whole lot more which i prefer not to talk about lol.
big thing, one of the girls dated this dude, who I knew, and I knew he only wanted a gf for one thing, and she could have done so much better, and we both warned her, and she kept telling us she'd never date him, and then next thing we knew they were dating and then she wanted us to be happy for her, which we couldn't and we didn't speak to her for a while, long story short, she did some stuff she wasn't proud of, but wouldn't listen to us, no matter how much we pleaded, and eventually learned the hard way (through a messy breakup) that it wasn't the best thing she did. and now the dude is messed up as, cuz he "loved" her, but idk, and it's hard to talk to him, cuz he hates the world etc... so sometimes, people aren't gonna listen, and all you can do is let them be and then be there to pick up the pieces. though, if they completely ditch you and treat you like trash, I can fully understand not being friends with them anymore, cuz even if you wanna help, dont let them walk all over you.
um, so what was my point? I forgot.... lol i think basically just try to help her, but she might need to learn stuff on her own, like the others have said. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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artyprincess
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| 03/09/2010 3:49 AM |
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Some people just don't listen. I agree with Allie - if you keep reminding her, she'll just ignore you. Look away or avoid her if you must. Yes, you are your sister's keeper, but you have to wait until your sister WANTS your help - or else it's pointless. Pray for her, but I'd suggest to stop telling her what she's doing wrong cause it isn't working.  |
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