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Baby Gurl
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| 03/11/2010 9:52 AM |
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What do i do????? I love my soon to be Husband but he startin to act Crazy with me for reason!!!WHAT SHOULD I DO!!! I think he messin round on me!!!! HE acts like he can beat on me an control me......!!!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!! |
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Grant I.
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| 03/11/2010 12:11 PM |
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| It sounds to me like there's a whole lot to this story, and based on what you just said, I don't think any of us can really give any advice yet... How is he acting crazy? What is he doing that makes you wonder? What makes you think he's messing around on you? In what ways is he trying to control you? Has he ever hit you, or grabbed you trying to intimidate you into doing what he wants? Are you actually engaged yet? |
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Adelynn
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| 03/11/2010 1:57 PM |
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| if you're being threatened, it's your responsibility to get out of that and to find a way to protect yourself. One thing I've learned is that no amount of my love or affection will make a guy suddenly "see his error" and behave correctly; instead, the guy saw it as I loved him even though he didn't respect me, so he had no reason to change. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 03/11/2010 3:59 PM |
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| LEAVE
I'm sorry to be that blunt, but that is the best advice I can give you. From what you've wrote, I gather your fiancee is not the man you thought he was, you think he's cheating on you, and he's been domineering toward you. That is not healthy in any relationship. I seriously doubt he's going to change. I know what I am asking of you. I really do. I've been trying to convince someone the same thing for years.
Adelynn said it best, "the guy saw it as I loved him even though he didn't respect me, so he had no reason to change."
Good Luck in whatever you decide! |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
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clare
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| 03/11/2010 8:52 PM |
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| no man should ever pretend that he can beat on a girl. At all. It sounds like this relationship is pretty far if he is you husband to be. If he really is trying to mess with you, you have to leave. The longer you're in that relationship the harder it will be to leave. If you're at all like me, you'll keep giving him s second chance, or justify it, or say you love him so much, and it's just something that will pass. Problem is. It won't. Leaving him will be the hardest thing you ever did. You will want to go back. he will beg and be nice again to try to get you back, but if you go back, he will turn mean again! Get out of that relationship if he is trying to use, control, or manipulate you in any way. Once you get out, and given time to heal, you will look back and know that was the best thing you ever did. Praying for you!!! |
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nateynate
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| 03/13/2010 9:38 PM |
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| Girl get the hell out of there. The longer you stay the harder it will be. Ive known way to many people get stuck in abusive and hurtful relationships like that and some of them cant leave because certain situations prevent that because theyve been in that relationship to long. Youve got to listen to lucky when he said leave. Unless this fiancee of yours radically changes, you need to get out. |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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BabyGurl
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| 03/22/2010 12:17 PM |
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K thanks!! I think i should take your advice... Thanks again!!
Holla!!! |
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!~*It's Almost Over*~! |
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