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A Mother’s Day Message of Hope
With Mother’s Day coming up, and with my own sweet mom navigating a recent health scare, I’m especially reminded this year that having the love and support of a mom […]
When You Hear Something that Rocks Your World, 4 Ways to Not Freak Out
There’s lots to freak out about right now isn’t there? From our kids’ choices and business pressures to policy issues we are passionate about, there’s always something. And those “somethings” […]
A Personal Update – Gratitude Edition
Multiple times recently, some of you have made me cry – in a really good way. I realize I need to pause my pattern of equipping you with blogs for […]
Why Is It So Hard to Talk About Sex?
Let’s be honest: Conversations (or blogs!) about sex can seem embarrassing or vulnerable. And yet, for married couples, our research has found that talking about sex clearly matters. In fact, […]
How to Handle Unmet Money Expectations (Part 2)
This is the second part of a two-part series on money and expectations. See Part 1 for important tips on how to communicate in a fundamentally better way about expectations […]
How to Handle Unmet Money Expectations (Part 1)
This is a two-part series on how to view money as a source of connection instead of conflict. In Part 1, we’ll look at how to honor each other’s values […]
How to Live With Unshakeable Hope
You and I were made to live with rock-solid hope. But when we’re in pain or discouraged, hope can feel far away just when we need it most, right? That’s […]
What I’m Loving Lately—March 2024 Edition
Hi friends! To adjust the lyrics from the old Rodgers & Hammerstein song, spring is bustin’ out all over –at least where I’m living in the South! Since the last […]
Finding Contentment in the Everyday: Embracing the Lost Art of Doing Nothing
I am delighted this week to hand the keys to the car over to my Staff and Operations Director Eileen Kirkland. She keeps this ministry organized (and keeps me sane!)—and […]
What Wives Need Most From Their Husbands (Part 2)
This is the final installment of a multi-part series on what our spouses need, but may not always articulate. In the first and second articles, we focused on what most […]
What Wives Need Most From Their Husbands (Part 1)
This is the next installment of a multi-part series on what our spouses need deep down inside, but may not always articulate. In Part 1 and Part 2, we focused […]
What Husbands Need Most From Their Wives (Part 2)
This is the second part of a multi-part series on what our spouses need, but may not always articulate. In Part 1 and this Part 2, we are focusing on […]
What Husbands Need Most From Their Wives (Part 1)
This is the first part of a multi-part series on what our spouses need, but may not always articulate. This week and next, we are focusing on husbands. After that, […]
In Money and Marriage, Remember the Past to Have Faith in the Future
Has money been causing heartaches or coming between you and your spouse lately? Yeah? I’m so glad we are not alone! The economy, inflation, and the effects of the pandemic […]
What Forgiveness Can Teach Us About Creating a Thriving Life – part 2
Simple Superpowers Series, Part 4: Researchers have identified simple superpowers that help us flourish in our lives and relationships. In parts 1 and 2 we looked at gratitude and curiosity and last […]
What Forgiveness Can Teach Us About Creating a Thriving Life
Simple Superpowers Series, Part 3: Researchers have identified simple superpowers that help us flourish in our lives and relationships. In week 1 we looked at gratitude. Week 2 focused on curiosity. This […]
What a Unicorn Whale Can Teach Us About Marriage
Simple Superpowers Series, Part 2: What “little things” make the biggest difference in our relationships? Researchers have identified actions that have an outsized impact for human flourishing. We call these […]
What an Attitude Adjustment Can Teach Us About What We DO Have
Simple Superpowers Series, Part 1: If we want to make changes in our lives and relationships in the new year, where should we put our attention? What “little things” will […]
Trade New Year’s Resolutions for Small Steps that Work!
Healthier fitness, weight, and diet. Improved finances. Better mental health. More time for loved ones. What do all of these have in common? According to a recent poll, these are […]
NEW YEAR, NEW US Marriage Bundle Giveaway – It Could Be Yours!
Would you like a stronger marriage in 2024? If you’re like me, you realize that a strong marriage takes time, effort, and a willingness to grow. That’s why I’m very […]
Top Ten Blog Posts from 2023
If there’s one thing we learned in 2023 (and 2022, and 2021…), it’s that disruption is the new normal. And maybe it always has been, right? While this year’s headlines […]
Christmas Money Tension? Strengthen Your Marriage by Pooling Finances
Not long ago, I got into a conversation with a young couple trying to navigate the journey of their first Christmas as husband and wife. Not surprisingly, they had discovered […]
What Adult Children Need – And Don’t Need – From Their Parents
Earlier this year, my three-part series for parents of empty nesters looked at how we parent adult kids when they are grown and gone. But what do our adult kids […]
Solutions for Sarcasm? Yeah, Right. (Nix the Negativity Series, Part 3)
This is Part 3 of a three-part series to help us nix the negative patterns that may be damaging our relationships. Part 1 tackled suspicion, Part 2 examined grumbling, and […]
From Grumbling to Grateful! (Nix the Negativity Series, Part 2)
This is Part 2 of a three-part series to help us nix the negative patterns that may be damaging our relationships. Last week we tackled suspicion, and the secrets for […]
Always Suspicious of Your Spouse (or Others)? Here’s What To Do! (Nix the Negativity, Part 1)
This is Part 1 of a three-part series to help us nix the negative patterns that may be damaging our relationships. This week focuses on the solution for an often-subconscious […]
7 Date Night Do’s and Don’ts (Part 2)
This is Part 2 of a two-part series on date night ideas that can help keep your marriage connected, fun, and functioning! See Part 1 for the first three do’s […]
7 Date Night Do’s and Don’ts (Part 1)
Want to keep your marriage fresh and connected? We’ll cover three date night do’s and don’ts this week in Part 1 and four next week in Part 2. Date night. […]
Broken Trust in a Relationship? Here’s What To Do
A note from Shaunti: I’ve invited my friend Jill Savage, a speaker, author, marriage coach and podcaster, to guest blog this week on the topic of broken trust. From my […]
7 Steps to Keep Defensiveness from Ruining Our Relationships (Part 2)
This is Part 2 of a two-part series on how to reduce defensiveness and have better mental health as well as more peace and productivity in your personal and professional […]
7 Steps to Keep Defensiveness from Ruining Our Relationships (Part 1)
This is Part 1 of a two-part series on how to notice and address defensiveness in yourself, to both have better mental health individually and much more peace and productivity […]
You Encouragers Need Encouragement Too!
A few weeks ago, it was incredible to see more than 7,000 Christian counselors, pastors, coaches, and ministry leaders converge on the American Association of Christian Counselors World Conference in […]
The Sky Is Not Falling—3 Ways to Help Our Kids Find Calm in Chaos
We’re a full year from the next presidential election, but does anyone else feel like it’s already in full swing? I know. Too soon. As a former public policy analyst […]
Is Marriage Really on Its Way Out?
Not long ago I was presenting some of my research at a national summit for relationship educators. This incredible and dedicated group included those who work with and support marriages […]
Four Ways to Find Peace in Any Storm
Many of you walked with me through my breast cancer journey the last two years, and I’m still so filled with gratitude for the support you offered. Even now I […]
What Every Empty Nest Parent Needs to Know (Part 3)
Are you adjusting to an empty nest? This series will help! Part 1 and Part 2 offer parenting strategies for strong relationships with your adult kids. In part 3 we […]
What Every Empty Nest Parent Needs to Know (Part 2)
Are you adjusting to the changing realities of an empty nest? This series will help! This Part 2 continues what we started in Part 1 with parenting-related strategies. Next week, in […]
What Every Empty Nest Parent Needs to Know (Part 1)
Are you adjusting to the changing realities of an empty nest? This series will help! Parts 1-2 will address your new season of parenting. In part 3, we’ll navigate the […]
What I’m Loving Lately – August 2023 edition
Well, the summer heat has been on (literally) and the school year is beginning again for many (cue the kids’ groans), so this is a great time to be a little more lighthearted and highlight the top 6 fun and meaningful things that I’ve been loving lately.
The Saver-Spender Disconnect in Marriage – and How to Handle It
By Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Are you and your spouse on two different pages around money? The two of us certainly had that problem. In fact, we had such a […]
Debunking the Bad Rap Against Evangelical Men
I have been waiting for a year to write this blog. (Actually, I’ve been waiting for twenty years, ever since my research began taking me into the minds of men […]
What To Do When You Think “What I Need is Obvious —Why Aren’t You Doing It?”
When Jeff and I first began doing marriage conferences, one church decided to schedule their fall event for eight hours on a Saturday. We gently tried to suggest a shorter […]
The Sneaky Solution to Finding Peace Instead of Stress (Part 3)
This is Part 3 of a three-part series on a crucial and often-overlooked way that we women can find peace instead of stress in our lives. In Part 1 and […]
The Sneaky Solution to Finding Peace Instead of Stress (Part 2)
This is Part 2 of a three-part series on an essential factor for finding peace instead of stress in our lives. All of us want to find rest and peace […]
The Sneaky Solution to Finding Peace Instead of Stress (Part 1)
This is Part 1 of a three-part series on a crucial and often-overlooked way that we women can find peace instead of stress in our lives. I have a question […]
What Every Christian Should Do in Times of Fear
June 27, 2023 Many of us woke up a few days ago—Saturday morning, June 24, 2023—to sobering wall-to-wall coverage of the news out of Russia. It appeared that a potential […]
Letting Dads be Dads – Even When it is Terrifying (Part 2)
In honor of Father’s Day, this two-part blog is a follow up to an earlier series sharing recent research on what every new dad can do to be a competent […]
Letting Dads be Dads – Even When it is Terrifying (Part 1)
In honor of Father’s Day, this two-part blog is a follow up to an earlier series on what every new dad can do to be a competent and confident father. […]
4 Shifts That Brought a Struggling Marriage Back From the Brink
A note from Shaunti: I’m excited this week to introduce you to the newest member of our team, our lead editor Laurie Davies, via this guest blog. If your marriage […]
Rocky Finances Don’t Have to Mean a Rocky Relationship!
By Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Financial challenges are everywhere these days, aren’t they? Inflation is taking a bite out of budgets, and don’t even get us started on gas prices! […]